When
a rich nigga want you
And
your nigga can’t do nothing for ya
These
hoes ain’t loyal
By
Chris Brown
“These hoes
ain’t loyal.” I wake up too many mornings with the hook playing in my head. Here’s
the kicker: I hate this song! And yet I can’t get it out of my head right now because
it’s stuck on repeat. This happens every time I’m somewhere the song plays. I
like the beat and I don’t want to because I can’t stand songs with misogynistic
lyrics. So, the fact that this song won’t leave me alone, means that I need to
write about it. I need to explain why I detest this and similar songs that
treat women as things. A hoe is a thing; it’s an object. It is a tool to be
used. It is easily discarded and replaced. So, when we sing along to the catchy
beat, we subconsciously accept that women and girls are things. We accept that they
are disposable. And we don’t recognize
their humanity.
When we sing along, we can go along with Jamal
Bryant, pastor of Empowerment Temple in Baltimore, MD who was speaking to
his congregation back in June about cheating men, and talked about the other
woman and said, “These hoes ain’t loyal.”I listened to the entire sermon so as
not to be sucked into a sensationalized news story because I know how things
can be taken out of context. But this was not the case. His sexist, homophobic,
misogynistic sermon made references to “sanctified sissies” and “baby mamas”,
too. So the song lyrics fit right in with the rest of the foolishness.
When we sing along, we are not offended by the pastor’s
remarks. We are members of the congregation clapping and standing up in agreement. We are mostly African-American women being
bamboozled and hoodwinked by the words of a charismatic preacher who is once
again blaming women for the downfall of men. What’s even more interesting in
this scenario is Bryant chose to use this particular song to chastise women for
not being loyal when his marriage ended due to his infidelity in 2013. He was calling women out in the sermon when
he was the one who stepped out on his wife.
When we sing along, we can accept that three
professional African-American women hanging out at a hotel in Manhattan
couldn’t have been anything other than professional hookers. On August 28,
three friends: Kanataki Washington, Cydney Madlock and J. Lyn Thomas were
seated in a restaurant in the Standard Hotel in Manhattan when an
African-American man introduced himself and offered to buy the women drinks. But
before they could take him up on his offer, a security guard whispered in the
man’s ear and ushered him away. Washington said the security guard told them,
“Come on ladies. You can buy a drink, but you can’t be soliciting.”
The security guard insisted that the women were soliciting
sex. And when the women reported the security officer, they were met with
indifference, and told that security personnel were hire through an outside
agency. But a few weeks later, Washington says she received an email from a
staff member of the hotel inviting Washington and her friends back for a dinner
(valued at $400) and a bottle of champagne. None of the emails addressed the
women’s prostitution claim, but the hotel was willing to pay them to come back
which was a slap in the face. The hotel was okay with paying the women for
being insulted, but wouldn’t acknowledge the insult.
When we sing along, we accept two teens
found dead and bound together along a road in Duval County, Florida as par
for the course. Angela Mangum and Tjhisha Ball were best friends according to
their family members, and both the girls had been working as strippers at the
time of their deaths. Law enforcement officers in Jacksonville, Florida are
looking for tips, but the story has gotten little media attention. In the few
news outlets that I’ve seen the story reported, the pictures that are shown are
mug shots of the women who were arrested but never convicted of any crime.
When we sing along, we see these pictures as confirmation
that “these hoes ain’t loyal” and deserved to die. We don’t see them as victims
because we like our victims clean; we like them White; we like them right
according to a strict code of conduct that says bad girls can’t do good, and
good girls aren’t bad. So, that there is a killer(s) on the loose, does not
hold our attention. We flip the page or scroll onto the next news story if we
have even seen this news story at all.
When we sing along, we don’t raise an eyebrow when we learn
that a police officer targeted African-American women and sexually assaulted
them. Daniel
Holtzclaw, a 27 year-old officer with the Oklahoma police department preyed
on middle-aged Black women. Eight women have come forth since February of this
year complaining that they were pulled over during traffic stops and fondled,
ordered to perform oral sex and even one women accused Holtzclaw of rape. He
was arrested August 20. His bond, originally set at $5 million dollars was
reduced to $500,000 and Holtzclaw has been released from jail and placed under
house arrest. Across the nation we are protesting police brutality and
excessive force. And yet we are quiet around this decades old issue of police
officers abusing their power and assaulting Black women.
When we sing along, we are not outraged that a mother of
three lost her life just this month for not responding to a man trying to get
her phone number. Mary
“Unique” Spears was leaving the repast of a family member, when a man
started harassing her. He wanted to know if she was single, and if he could get
her number. He was persistent, and when Spears’ boyfriend tried to intercede on
her behalf, the man took out a gun and began shooting. He shot Spears once, and
when she tried to run he shot her twice more.
When we sing along, the seeds of misogyny take root in our
mind and become entangled with rational thought. So even when we clean up the
lyrics and sing, “these girls ain’t loyal”, we know that the girls in this and
songs like it are still tools of a trade designed to degrade and devalue females
in general but African-American women
and girls in particular who society consistently classifies as hoes and treats
as such.
So, think about that the next time you find yourself bobbing
and singing to Loyal.
Yes! Yes! Yes!!
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